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Why its Important to Carry the Message in Our Recovery

Why its Important to Carry the Message in Our Recovery

The 12th step of the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous states, "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all of our affairs."

What this means is that as a result of our recovery, we now understand that our beliefs have changed when it comes to our addictions. We now believe that our addiction is a problem and not the solution to our problems. To help keep us grounded, we focus our efforts on the needs of those around us. We take our message to those who still suffer, and we continue to do so as we practice what we have learned in our recovery.

In recovery, we talk about being of service. We talk about taking committments. The main reason we do this is to focus on things outside of ourselves. In our active addictions, we became very self-centered. We focused on our own needs and desires. We focused on nothing other than obtaining our next fix. By being of service to others, we begin to focus on the others around us. We begin to focus on the needs and desires of others rather than our own. Many times, it will also help us put our own problems into perspective and remove the self-centeredness that still plagues us.

In the Big Book, there are several mentions of a spiritual awakening in recovery. Our spiritual awakening is the beginning of our understanding of our purposes in life. It is the realization that we need connection with others in order to be whole and complete. As humans, we were never meant to be alone. While some of us appreciate and thrive through some alone time, it is through our relationships with others that we grow and succeed. Addiction removes our spiritual awareness and connection and stunts our personal growth. By serving others, we build and maintain those connections and foster necessary growth.

Twelve-step groups do not advertise. Most, if not all of them focus on attraction rather than promotion. However, it does take a good friend to approach us when our addictions have taken hold. Once we realize that we have a problem, it is others that help guide us to recovery. In early recovery, you will have a sponsor. However, that won't always be the case. While you should always have a sponsor, someday you should also be a sponsor. In doing so, you carry the message to the next generation of people coming into recovery. This serves a purpose in your life as well as that of your sponsee. For you, it helps solidify what you've learned in recovery and continue to practice those principles.

All of this works together in beautiful harmony to not only make us better people in recovery, but also to encourage others in their recovery as well. No addiction treatment method is perfect but in this principle, twelve-step philosophy pretty well has it covered. In early recovery, we make ourselves available to others and we make committments that we follow through on. We realize our spiritual awakening and we embrace it, growing personally in the process. And finally, we take what we've learned and we share it with others. In doing so, we not only confirm what we've learned but we help others learn it as well. It does work, which is why its become a part of the most effective and successful recovery method in history.

At Chateau Recovery, we have numerous opportunities for you to be of service to others and to help carry the message to the addict who still suffers. We'd love the opportunity to talk to you about how it works and how you can be a part of this amazing journey of personal growth. Give us a call today at (800) 379-4401 or fill out the contact form on this page to get started!

What Does Successful Recovery Look Like?

What Does Successful Recovery Look Like?

When we talk about successful recovery, many people often think that it is merely abstinence from mind-altering substances. The reality is though, that successful recovery goes far beyond just not drinking or using drugs. Successful recovery involves a mind-body-spirit approach that can't even begin until the drugs and alcohol are long gone.

For those of us that find ourselves addicted to a substance, we've become addicted because we didn't like how we felt when we were sober. That drink or drug changed everything for us - putting us in a place where we finally felt comfortable in our own skin. Without a doubt, those negative feelings and emotions will return once we get clean and sober. To keep from relapsing, we will need to face those negative feelings and emotions head on to truly be successful in our recovery efforts.

Healing our minds

The healing of our minds begins with the emotional traumas that we've faced that bring on our negative feelings and emotions. Perhaps it was emotional trauma such as abuse, neglect, or abandonment. It could even be a traumatic event that occured that caused some form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It is never a good idea to handle emotional trauma on your own. It is always best to seek professional help to work out the issues that have caused the trauma in the first place. Speaking freely with a licenced counselor will help you understand the process of the events that occured and release the responsibility you feel for these events.

Its important to realize though, that you cannot do these things on your own. You need direction, accountability, and even supervision to make sure that what you are doing is correct, safe, and productive in your recovery. It may start with your sponsor, but your sponsor may recommend counseling as well. If you went through a treatment center, you most likely saw a doctor, psychiatrist, therapist, or all three. It is important to your mental health to remain seeing these professionals as long as they deem necessary. Once you leave treatment, your recovery journey has only just begun. It will take months, years, or even a lifetime of personal growth to continue your success in recovery.

Healing our bodies

Our physical and mental health are so closely tied to each other that it is impossible to address one and not the other. When you stop drinking or using drugs, your body will immediately begin to heal itself from the damage. However, to continue on the healing path, you must focus on healthy diet, exercise, and regulating sleep patterns. When you aren't physically feeling your best, your emotions run higher and its difficult to see things from a healthy perspective. When you are tired from lack of sleep, you are more apt to make poor decisions.

In recovery, we are taught to take care of our own needs first, and then help others. While it sounds selfish, the analogy of the airplane oxygen mask is used to explain. If you are on an airplane and the oxygen masks are released from the ceiling, place the mask on yourself first before helping others with their masks. The reasoning is because if our own needs for oxygen aren't met, then we will quickly pass out and be useless in the quest to help others. It is the same with recovery. While the effects may not be as immediate, you will not be nearly as effective in helping others if you do not first ensure that your own physical needs have been met.

Healing our spirits

Our spirits are perhaps the most overlooked when it comes to personal recovery. However, it is arguably the most important. When we speak about our spirits, we are referring to everything from our interpersonal relationships with others to our concept of a higher power and the strength he, she, or it brings us.

No matter what your beliefs are, we are social and relational beings; we need meaningful interaction with others to survive and thrive. Countless scientific studies have shown this time and time again without fail...we need other people in our lives to be happy, healthy, and successful. The problem is, most of us have deeply hurt our loved ones in our addictions. In recovery, we need to make amends to those people that we have hurt.

This is also a huge reason why we relapse, as well as the main purpose of the fourth, eighth, and ninth steps of 12-step programs. It is very important to make direct amends where possible, and to make living amends everywhere else. You can read more about the process for making amends in the sixth chapter of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Your sponsor is also a good source of information regarding the 12 steps, and if you don't have one yet it is highly recommended that you begin looking for one right away.

As for our concept of a higher power, many people will choose God as their higher power. However, the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous clearly states that this is not a requirement in the program. Chapter four of the big book speaks directly to this fact. If you don't believe in God as your higher power, you can choose the higher power of your own belief. Whatever the case may be, we are clear through the 12 steps that we are not in control of what happens outside of our own behavior. Something else is in control. Whatever you believe is in control of the universe is your higher power. To remain spiritually healthy, you need to find your connection to that higher power and understand your relationship to it.

So you can see, it is so much more important to look beyond the addiction itself and see the underlying causes of our emotional and spiritual issues. As addicts and alcoholics, we self-medicate to remove the emotional pain that we face. If we remove that "medication", we do not solve the root cause. In fact, its quite the opposite - we free those issues up for the world to see. We can't ignore them.

The 12 steps are designed to start the process, but they also only scratch the surface. If you're new in recovery then you may understand...treatment, sober living, sponsors, the 12 steps: all of it is designed to start you on your journey but its up to you to keep on that journey for the rest of your life. As you do, the promises of Alcoholics Anonymous will be granted you. You'll be happier, healthier, and more successful than you've ever known in your life. And at that point, you'll truly know that you are successfully in recovery.

Chateau Recovery does not provide addiction treatment; we offer upscale sober living at a reasonable rate in the heart of West Hollywood. If you have completed a treatment program and are looking for sober living, give us a call today to schedule a tour.

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Understanding the Basics of Relapse Prevention

Understanding the Basics of Relapse Prevention

These days, relapse prevention is the biggest buzzword in addiction recovery circles. Everyone wants to know how to stay sober once they stop drinking or using. The good news is that staying sober is something that everyone can do. The bad news is that it isn't always easy. Here are a few basic things to remember to keep the cravings at bay.

1. Create a new life for yourself.

Remember that coming into recovery means that you are creating a new life and leaving your old one behind. Old friends and family, unhealthy relationships, and old neighborhoods make it very easy and tempting to fall back into old behavior. This is one of the major reasons why people choose to go to sober living after treatment. It means that you've made a decision not to return to the risky environment from which you came. Keep on that track and avoid your old life. You know that if you wanted to, you know exactly how to get in contact with your old dealer, party with your old friends, or stop in at that old watering hole. Don't do it. Stick with sober living and make new friends in recovery that will help you along on your new journey.

2. HALT the cravings before they start.

We hope you've heard it already, but we're going to say it again because it bears repeating: you must take care of yourself first in recovery. You cannot help others if your own basic needs haven't been met. This is where "HALT" comes in. It's an acronym that we use in recovery to help us remember to care for ourselves every day. HALT stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired. Of the four, two are physical needs and two are emotional needs. Feeding yourself is number one on the list. We need proper nourishment to keep up our energy and keep our brains functioning properly. Something as simple as low blood sugar can contribute to a complete emotional meltdown, especially if emotions are already running high.

Angry and Lonely are two emotional needs that must be fulfilled by seeking out others. Your sponsor can help you process anger in a healthy manner. As for lonliness, we need to seek out real connection with others. We must have true friendships and healthy romantic relationships. If you're struggling with this even after speaking to your sponsor, it may be time to seek out a counselor to help you through these struggles.

Finally, we come to Tired, the last physical need. Lack of sleep can certainly make our days more difficult and broaden the temptation to relapse. Often in our addictions, we aren't sticking to a regular sleeping pattern. When we come into recovery, it can be difficult to reset those sleeping patterns. You will need to create a regular daily schedule for yourself and stick to it. If you find that you're having difficulty getting up on time in the morning, you'll need to move to an earlier bedtime. Continue to adjust your sleeping schedule until you no longer feel tired during the day. If you still struggle with sleeping, talk to your doctor about what you can do. Remember that you most likely won't be able to take prescription sleep aids in your sober living home, but your doctor may be able to recommend an over-the-counter sleep aid. Some people find that certain teas or homeopathic remedies help promote healthy sleep cycles as well.

3. Learn new anxiety management techniques and practice them every day.

There is an old joke that states that SOBER is an acronym - it stands for Son Of a B**ch, Everything's Real! Its funny because its true. We used to drown out our realities with drink or drug, and now that we're sober we must face everyday problems head on. For most, if not all of us, this is quite a daunting task. It may prove to be too much anxiety for us if we don't manage it in a healthy manner.

As you make your way around meetings, you'll hear the phrase, "Just take the next indicated step." It means the same as One day at a time, or baby steps, indicating that we don't tackle one whole problem at a time. Instead, we break it down into smaller pieces and take it step by step. Once one small step is complete, move on to the next.

If anxiety persists beyond handling of your daily responsibilities, you may have a more serious problem you need to address. Getting a little more agressive with your anxiety management, you may find relief through daily hobbies, excercise, or other fun. Try to plan something for at least a few minutes every day, and when the anxiety is at its worst, return to it for a few mintues.

If none of these things are helping you find peace, then its time to see your doctor or counselor and talk about your anxiety. Many times our anxiety is caused by poor stress management techniques, while other times its caused by chemical imbalances. Determining the root cause of your anxiety and applying the appropriate remedies will help keep you from reaching for a drink or drug.

4. Voice your feelings to trusted friends and have them help you process through them.

If most of us were to be honest with ourselves, we'd admit that the reason we sought a chemical escape was because we didn't want to feel our painful feelings anymore. The bad news is that when you come into recovery, you'll still feel them. In fact, it will be incredibly painful at times because those feelings never left - they only festered and grew while you were drunk or high. Now that you're in recovery, you're going to have to do some work on those feelings if you want to be successful in your recovery. If you went through a treatment center, then you've already started this process with a drug counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. This is certainly the most important step. These professionals will be able to help identify any underlying co-existing disorders that can prevent you from successful long-term recovery. Once that is done, we turn to our trusted friends and loved ones for help. If you have a spouse or significant other that you live with, that's even better. Now comes the hard part.

Identify your feelings and express them. As addicts, we've been denying our feelings for so long, we don't even realize when we're feeling something anymore. Keep a journal of what you're feeling with you everywhere you go and write down every feeling you have that you don't like. At the end of the day, sit down with someone you trust and talk through each one of those feelings. As you continue to do this, you'll become so much more in touch with yourself and your needs. You'll be able to process through past hurts and free yourself from some emotional pain. When you practice this with your significant other, you'll find that you grow closer with that person and your love grows deeper. Your trust will strengthen and you'll argue less because you understand each other more.

Do you have other methods you use that help you maintain your sobriety? What works the best for you? Tell us in the comments below!

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